RANTINGS OF A LUNATIC WIFE

What Kind of Person?

I have two little girls as I am sure I've mentioned previously. "Diva" will be five in January. She is the first grandchild on my side of the family and the first granddaughter on Peter's side. Little Linebacker is the second grandchild on my side, second granddaughter, but fourth grandchild on Peter's side.

I have created webpages for both of them and both have guest books that people can sign if they so choose.

Sunday, I updated both the Diva and the little Linebacker's pages. Imagine my surprise, when upon checking my email Monday, I am notified that my father-in-law has signed Diva's book but not the baby's. Now, while I call baby, "the Little Linebacker", she is a beautiful little girl in her own right. She just happens to be 25 pounds and 31 1/2 inches long at almost 17 months old. She also loves watching Wrestling with her Daddy and her Uncle. She even does WWE Wrestler, John Cena's, "You Can't See Me" hand wave. It's hysterical.

"Diva" is a girly girl and equally beautiful both inside and out.

I can understand my father-in-law being enamored with his eldest granddaughter to a certain degree. Before Peter and I even got married, he requested a granddaughter. He already had one grandson and his daughter, Peter's sister, was expecting my second nephew. Moreover, he thinks his daughter hung the moon, while both my husband Peter and little brother "Pan" cannot do anything right in his eyes. In short, he plays favorites.

I tried to ignore it at first. Actually, I even tried to convince myself that the reason my in-law's spent so little time with the baby when they were visiting was because she was little. I know, I know, that was a load of crap, because they wanted Diva every chance they could get her on previous visits, no matter how small she was at the time. Truthfully, my father wanted more time with Diva. That was ok this time, because the baby was barely a year old. But I am concerned that he is setting a precedence.

This is what he wrote in Diva's guest book:

"Diva" You are very cute and sweet. This is papa # 1 grand daughter. Papa is very proud and love's you very much."
What the hell? He can't go to the baby's page and write something nice? Doesn't he love her too? Or is she just chopped liver? I was and still am, offended on the Little Linebacker's behalf. She is every bit as special as her big sister. What kind of a Grandfather would do something like this?

I am most indignant because I am worried that he will continue this behavior when they are older. The last thing I need is one kid who believes she hung the moon and one with self-esteem issues courtesy of her GRANDFATHER. How screwed up would that be? Growing up is hard enough without adding even more sibling rivalry.


Am I worried for nothing? Or is my father-in-law just screwed in the head? You be the judge.

posted by Lunatic Wife @ 5:22 PM